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Friday, 23 October 2015

"...my would-be divorce"

The difference between being an enabler and a true friend/supportive family member is that the former tells you what you WANT to hear, and the latter tells you what you NEED to hear.

My friends - after having told them about my would-be divorce - said I rushed into this marriage and it wasn't practical. They weren't surprised that it ended the way it did, and that's what I choose to surround myself and my beliefs with - integrity, honesty and calling it like it is.

Even when I was younger, my parents would hold me accountable and responsible for any misbehavior so I would learn from my mistakes and grow up to become a well-mannered person. They would groom and reprimand me, not pamper/spoil me to the point where the blame was immediately shifted onto the next/nearest person available that was a clear target when shit goes down.

Apparently I've become an exit valve yet again, and I'm shouldering all faults, but it doesn't matter, because I have my ethics and morals to live on. But I sincerely wish (...and pray) that his friends and family member would not sugarcoat this entire incident and tell him something along the lines of, "Everything was Zac's fault, not yours", for his sake - not mine. Despite what you may think, I still care very much about him, and I hope he finds whatever it is that he is looking for in life - though it probably isn't mutual.

I come from a place of love, and I'll walk away knowing that I did everything I could but it just wasn't good enough. I won't (and never have nor ever will) harbor hostility or point fingers, because my parents raised me better than that. But yes - I was in an abusive marriage.

Really, really think about it...

For every action, there's a reaction. It snowballs on and on...

On the next episode of Dr Phil...

ツ | 8:46 am

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My name is Zachary (

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Born on Christmas of '92 (

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Gay (

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I ❤ my best friends
«Jen Ross» and «Bekah»

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