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Tuesday, 12 April 2016

Riddle me this:

Why am I so sensitive to people's intentions?

In many ways, I'm like the psychologist-equivalent of an Empath. A mentalist, is that what they call it? When it comes to 'picking up' on people's emotions and how they feel, I am by no means perfect. I'm terrible at it. However, when it comes to mentally uncovering what their unsaid motive(s) are, I've got that on lock, especially when they try to mask it with another subject to shroud what they really want.

I have never taken a single psychology class throughout the span of my life, but I have been to therapy several times, so maybe that could attribute to my ability to read a situation? *shrugs*

Here's the thing, I belong to a 'Cut to the Chase' generation, and I also grew up in an environment where my friends and family were blatant and upfront about what they wanted, so there wasn't a need for a manual-length explanation before finally being told what they were after.

For example, when my sister wanted to borrow my weights to workout, the way she would confront the matter is direct and concise. It goes a little something like this:

Sister: "Hey Zac, can I borrow your weights?"
Me: "Yes."

Because growing up with her, she knows that I'm the type of person who is naturally giving. I rarely say no unless it's life-threatening or could potentially hurt someone. In being forward with what she wants, she is well aware that I (100%) won't deny her, thus hurting her ego/pride.

And I guess because we live in a world where people are 'afraid' (for lack of better word) to be rejected, to hear the word "no", we choose to employ tactics that would turn the situation in our favor. They present a lengthy backstory before they reveal what they really want, when they didn't have to and I would have done it sooner than later, and all while they are trying to pander to my reaction, I'm anxiously waiting for the punchline.

Thing is, I don't have a problem with people who like to explain before request, rather I have a issue with my own ability to pinpoint their true agenda. Let me reiterate, I will almost never say "No" to a favor or request unless it's extremely absurd or quixotic.

And don't even get me started on subtext, where a person tiptoes around a subject and simply refuses to say what they want outright. The intended message goes *swoosh* over my head.

A Classic Example of Modern Day Subtext:
X: Wow, you look really sexy.. I would love to see what that body can do... You must get a lot of hits..

Subtext: I want you to send me nudes. I want to have sex with you solely because you're attractive, not because of your personality. I am insecure/jealous because I do not get as much hits as you do.

ツ | 4:30 pm

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